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Feeling Anxious? Maybe What You Are Feeling Isn't Yours

6/11/2014

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Have you ever worked with someone that has an impact on you the moment they arrive at work? They don't say or do anything and yet immediately the energy of the space shifts. It is a reminder that we can have an energetic impact and we may be misinterpreting what we are feeling. So let me share a personal story with you about energy. 

I worked  in restaurants for years and have always been sensitive to the energy of a room. A number of years ago,

I went with my oldest son on a class trip to Playland. I was assigned a group of six kids, which included my son. Prior to going off and having fun I set the intention with the kids. It was simple...two rules...stick together and have fun. The kids were awesome and we had an amazing time. I was in good spirits, I was not stressed and I was really enjoying the experience. It came time to go and have lunch and we were all standing in line at the White Spot restaurant. To my surprise I suddenly began to feel very anxious. What I couldn't understand was where this feeling was coming from as moments before I was in a great mood. It took me a couple minutes to realize that I was being affected by the energy of those around me. Behind me was about 50+ very hungry kids that couldn't wait to get to the front of the line and order their food.

“Energy doesn't lie. Keep sensing it, trusting it, letting it liberate you.”  ~ Judith Orloff

Prior to this experience I had always assumed that what I was feeling belonged to me and was mine to process. I now had a new awareness and realization. What if my past anxious feelings weren't actually mine? What if I was feeling other peoples energy. This awareness led to a real sense of freedom. I learned that more often than not what I was feeling wasn't actually mine. By becoming aware of my surroundings and what was happening around me, I was able to filter what was mine and what wasn't.

I later discovered some information about people who are referred to as "empathic" which further explained my way of being. You can find more info about that here http://www.drjudithorloff.com/Free-Articles/emotional-empath-EF.htm

3 Comments
Hilary
6/13/2014 01:42:02 am

Hi Ross,

Your post certainly resonated! I am incredibly affected by the energies of others. I can't believe how many times I will say to someone, "Are you picking up on 'that'? Did you feel the sudden change in their demeanor when ...? Wow, their energy sure changed. (and similar such comments)" only to be told, "I have no idea what you're talking about."

More often than not, as soon as I meet someone I'm able to pick up on their 'energy' (and body language) and, if I'm lucky, I can quickly adjust my 'approach' accordingly. This 'sensitivity / awareness' also allows me to change my game plan / tactics / 'whatever' in the moment to accommodate any change in their energy that may occur 'down the road' in our shared time.

Being sensitive to energy has it's 'moments' but, ultimately, I consider it a gift and a blessing for which I am inordinately grateful.

As you so aptly pointed out, 'energy' can change in a matter of moments which can be very disconcerting until you are able to figure out 'why'!

It doesn't surprise me at all that you are so in tune with the more subtle nuances in energy that not everyone picks up on! You are a most special man.

Thank you Ross . . .

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Ross Tayler
6/13/2014 02:54:52 am

Wow thank you Hilary for contributing your thoughts. I can certainly relate to all that you shared and have learned to manage over the years. I know you can relate to sensing the energy in a restaraunt.

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erin
6/18/2014 11:27:51 pm

Really appreciate this, Ross. I realize through thosnwriting and the other person's comment that my sensitivity can he a great gift, and it does also mean I am susceptible to carrying thigs that just really are not mine to carry.

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