For me connection continues to be a journey of learning about myself, becoming grounded in myself, honouring my intuition and getting curious about others. When there is a balance of energy, between self & other it can create a tangible shift in the depth of connection.
Connection is about embracing a different model for being and doing, that brings awareness to three main areas;Self (My World), Other (Your World), and the Relationship itself (Our World). The most common example I see, is that people avoid connection because it can be scary and show us aspects of ourselves we may not be ready to own.
There is a burning desire / need within me that for the most part is going unmet. I apologize in advance, this might be a bit of an honest rant. The deal is, that I am totally human and perfectly imperfect. For example, in regards to this Blog post, my inner critic had a bit of a field day. Write it , don't write it. You are a hypocrite if you write that. You won't be teaching anything, it's just a rant. Back and forth.
The other day at work an older gentleman came in and had a question. After some discussion it turned out that he had paid a bill that belonged to someone else in his community (who has the same name as him). When he came in he was frustrated by the situation. Through conversation I learned that he had paid the bill even though he doesn't subscribe to that particular service. It took some digging for me to fully understand what he was saying as well as what he was asking. When I finally understood the situation I decided to use humor to ease the situation. I jokingly said, "Wow, how nice of you to have paid someone else's bill". This resulted in some banter back and forth, we laughed at the situation and I gave him some options of how to solve his particular problem. We talked some more and then he got up to leave. As he got up he was smiling and I could see that our dialogue had an impact. There were tears welling up in his eyes.
Yesterday I was having a conversation with my Mom and she was sharing with me a situation that was unfolding between her and her Sister. My Mom and her sister have not seen each other face to face in about 44 years and their relationship has been rocky for as long as I can remember. My Mom's sister lives in Holland and my Mom lives here in BC. I won't share with you the actual story, however I will say that as my Mom shared her version of the story, my intuition peaked and I knew that something wasn't adding up. My Mom was quite angry about an email that her sister wrote. I asked my Mom to forward the email which was written in Dutch, so that I could translate it on Google and read it for myself. When I finished reading, I had a completely different perspective of the situation that I shared with my Mom.